“Human relations… with time I realized that this is what makes me most happy. We need to go through certain experiences to realize what we miss most when we don’t have it anymore. Without having experienced lack, it’s difficult to know what you really need in order to be well. It can be grief or things like that, the loss of someone which makes us realize the importance that this person had for us. All the separations that life inflicts upon us… imposes on us. Maybe when we are young we think we are kind of self-sufficient, and with time we realize that it’s much more pleasant to share what we are going through with others.
I lost my parents when I was very young, I was between 15 and 20 years old. On one hand, it gave me a great sense of freedom, because there was no more natural authority. But it was also a source of insecurity. So, for example, I can’t say “I’m going back to my parents’ home”. I never really could say “I’m going back to my parents’ home” in situations where I felt most vulnerable. I realized… I think we are all conscious of it, and we listen to it more or less… that we are mortal… that time flies by, and that we have to enjoy life.
It made me a bit of a hedonist. And it helps to distinguish between what is important and what isn’t. It also forced me to seek refuge in other people. I realized very quickly that I wasn’t self-sufficient, that I wasn’t strong, that I needed others. As long as we haven’t experienced being alone or destitute… we might not realize it. It might also be related to my personality. I don’t really like solitude. Maybe some people live with it well.”
(Rive | translated from French)